The misunderstanding about love and the difference between love and care, and how we stress ourselves for lack of love.

As I am going through difficult times in this pandemic’s new normal, I realized that after some depressive times, my life has been having very little love. I notice by questioning that the reason I got depressed was that I was not in a deep relationship with myself and my feelings.

In the quest for freedom and love, I realized how difficult it was for me to ask for help and how I was trained habitually to isolate myself and believe that everything that I needed was to be able to survive.  Continue reading →

We are conditioned to believe in “no pain, no gain”. In other words, we need to work hard, sacrifice and suffer in order to have the desired result. It is a basic process of punishment and reward.

Much of our education teaches us very early on that we are a good boy/girl (when we do right) and a bad boy/girl (when we make mistakes). The interesting thing is that we learn to do the same to ourselves.
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Are you always stressed about the end result of your performances?

Many of us, for so many reasons (educational culture, social pressures, etc.), have a hard time focusing on the process of our performances, instead focusing our entire attention only on the goal. In the Alexander Technique we call this phenomenon  “end gaining”.

It is as if you as an actor, didn’t understand that your expectation to do a good job (or to be approved by other people) takes you out of the present moment. Continue reading →

Are you doing what you think you are doing?

I have been asking questions to myself to try to understand the priorities in my life. Very often I don’t recognize my habitual tendencies and priorities. I just follow my instincts and believe all is going to be ok.

The problem is that most of my actions come from a very unconscious process, where I don’t have the way to choose the best conditions to evolve. It means that my reactions depend upon a less than accurate perception.

A perception that doesn’t allow me to organize and focus in order to concentrate on my goals. Continue reading →

Learning to develop strategies to better cope with emotional pain.

It is so easy to believe that only things that come from the outside could help to change us. But in fact, it is our acceptance (our belief) that creates the conditions for this change to occur.

Any technique could help us if we decide to apply it for our everyday life. Continue reading →

The Confident Actor

I have been teaching the Alexander Technique to actors for many years and always notice how most of them struggle with fear of failure.

“How do I build confidence in myself as an actor?” Continue reading →